I know it’s tempting to shoulder your burden by yourself. I know that admitting you need help can be seen as a weakness. But the reality is that 1 out of 5 people suffer needlessly. Not everything goes right all the time.
It says in the bible Matthew 6:16-18: 16 “And when you fast, do not look gloomy like the hypocrites, for they disfigure their faces that their fasting may be seen by others. Truly, I say to you, they have received their reward. 17 But when you fast, anoint your head and wash your face, 18 that your fasting may not be seen by others but by your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.”
I think the intention is that you shouldn’t brag about your suffering. It shouldn’t be something you’re proud of. I don’t think what he meant was that you should literally suffer silently.
I have met multiple people who said that they couldn’t sleep because they have high anxiety. I have met multiple people who said that they were abused as kids. None of these people have met each other. they can’t exchange stories. They just assume that they are unique in their suffering. But since I have heard these stories, I can urge them to be vocal. What I have learned is that everyone believes that they are unique in their suffering and common in their pleasures. I have also learned that the opposite is mostly true: People are common in their suffering and unique in their pleasures. This is something I have learned only because others were not silent.